[Dialogue] In Praise of Unruly Women

Sat Jul 31 17:49:53 EDT 2004

My mother-in-law (age 86, mother of 9 and married (for some 45+ years until 
his death) to a longshoreman who went on strikes to secure decent wages and 
benefits) whispered to me (among Republican relatives) that she thought Teresa 
was wonderful!  (She also said she thought she was beautiful)  I'll need to 
get her to say it out loud soon when they all gather together.

Diann McCabe

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>IN PRAISE OF UNRULY WOMEN
>By Arianna Huffington
>
>Teresa Heinz Kerry is a breath of fresh air, so why are the media choking on
>it?
>
>Almost every story about her these days includes at least one snarky remark
>- usually attacking her for her refusal to endlessly regurgitate the same
>preapproved talking points.
>
>According to the chattering class, Heinz Kerry is - and I quote - "too
>outspoken," "too opinionated," "slightly zany," "eccentric and
>unpredictable," "the queen of direct" and - cover your ears, kids - "says
>what she thinks, when she thinks it."
>
>In other words, she's an unconventional straight shooter. The horror!
>
>(Reporters also seem to have a big problem with her hair, which has
>variously been described as "unkempt," "unruly," "humidity-frizzed,"
>"voluminous" and "expensively colored a rich auburn" - but that's follicle
>fodder for another column.)
>
>Even Maureen Dowd, no slouch herself in the independent-thinking department,
>felt compelled to write not one but two columns in the course of 10 days
>slamming Teresa for, among other things, being "flaky."
>
>You gotta love this about our media mavens: They are constantly bemoaning
>the lack of forthrightness in our pubic figures - the vast majority of whom
>wouldn't know a straight answer if it bit them in the butt. But when they
>are finally presented with someone who doesn't (pardon the expression) beat
>around the bush, they start sharpening the long knives.
>
>They're like a bunch of little kid s who have gotten so used to being fed
>nothing but vanilla ice cream for dessert that a serving of Rocky Road with
>some sprinkles on top leaves them sputtering and crying, "Yuck!"
>
>Most of the American public, on the other hand, possess a far more developed
>and discerning palate - and can appreciate more complex and piquant flavors.
>
>And when it comes to spicing up the political dessert tray, Teresa Heinz
>Kerry is one of the most flavorful and compelling public figures to hit the
>national stage in decades.
>
>When I first met her in Washington in 1980, she was a very popular
>Republican wife, with views very similar to the ones she holds today. Now
>she's a Democratic wife, a philanthropist who oversees a foundation that
>gives tens of millions to causes like the environment, healthcare and early
>education, a loving mother, grandmother and stepmother. She grew up in
>Mozambique, went to college in South Africa where she marched against
>apartheid, is fluent in five languages, and learned so much about medicine
>from her oncologist father that friends and family have nicknamed her "Dr.
>T."
>
>And unlike most politicians, she has a natural gift for intimacy and
>interacts with campaign crowds of 5,000 as if she were sitting around
>chatting with a small group of friends.
>
>Yes, she is indeed unabashedly open with her opinions on everything from the
>war in Iraq ("I would never have gone to war this way") to George Bush
>("fazed by complexity") to Botox treatments (she's had them).
>
>But isn't that what we claim to want from those in public life? Or are we
>comfortable with authenticity only when it's a contrivance manufactured to
>appear authentic?
>
>"I am the product of living in dictatorships," Teresa has said. "It makes
>you cherish the ability to be yourself, to have feelings and to speak them
>when asked. People say I'm blunt. I say, 'No, just honest.'"
>
>It's this honesty that has led the media to brand her with the scarlet "O"
>for offbeat - a caricature given national credence by a Newsweek cover that
>trumpeted: "Is John Kerry's Heiress Wife a Loose Cannon or Crazy Like a
>Fox?"
>
>It was character assassination by headline - especially since the cover line
>was not in any way reflective of the story inside, which painted Heinz Kerry
>as warm, smart, alive, funny, and, yes, brutally honest.
>
>It's hard to imagine that headline - which was, incidentally, written by a
>man - being used to describe a man. As Marlo Thomas once said: "A man has to
>be Joe McCarthy to be called ruthless. All a woman has to do is put you on
>hold."
>
>We may have come a long way, baby, but there is no doubt that there is still
>a double standard when it comes to women in politics - especially political
>wives - who are supposed to be smart but not so smart that they're
>threatening, and strong but not so strong that they are intimidating.
>
>It's a high-wire tightrope act, one that's almost impossible to pull off to
>the political media's satisfaction. And this at a time when girl power is
>blossoming in other parts of our culture, especially sports and
>entertainment. Last week's Olympic Trials featured women going faster,
>higher, stronger than ever before. And our movie screens are filled with
>indomitable, determined women like "Kill Bill's" Beatrix Kiddo or Keira
>Knightley's kick-ass Guinevere in the new "King Arthur."
>
>But try to apply these attributes to politics and the media start acting
>like it's 1958 - they suddenly don't know how to handle smart, accomplished,
>complex women. Judy Dean wasn't glamorous or supportive enough, Hillary was
>too smart and too strong, and Teresa is too loose-lipped and too
>unpredictable.
>
>So it really isn't much of a surprise that the political wife the media seem
>most comfortable with is Laura Bush, who has chosen to take on the image of
>the perfect 1950s sitcom housewife. She's the Harriet Nelson of first
>ladies, the quintessential deferential spouse, praised by her husband for
>not "trying to butt in and always, you
>know, compete" and lauded by the media for her ability "to balance strength
>and subservience." I guess I missed the moment where subservience became a
>virtue.
>
>When Laura Bush was asked what advice she'd given her twin daughters before
>sending them out this summer to campaign for their father, she replied:
>"Stand up straight and keep your hair out of your eyes." Words to live by -
>if you're Marabel Morgan. Somehow I don't think those are the same words of
>wisdom Teresa Heinz Kerry passed on to her stepdaughters before they hit the
>hustings. (From Del to those who may not know, a husting is an early
>platform on which candidates for the English parliament formerly stood to
>address the electors.)
>
>Both Teresa and Laura are scheduled to deliver primetime speeches at their
>respective party conventions. The contrast between the two - and what this
>contrast says about the men in their lives - should be stark. Out on the
>campaign trail, Teresa is given to in-depth discussions about health care
>and global warming. Laura tends to say things like: "I'm not privy to the
>policy disputes. I'm not over there at the table where everyone is
>actually formulating specific policy." Heaven forbid.
>
>"We need to honor women in all their complexity," Teresa Heinz Kerry told
>me. "It's time that we acknowledge the wisdom women have acquired by
>managing the chaos of daily life. Women are realists, the glue that holds
>society together. They bring a reverence to life that's instinctual, not
>just intellectual."
>
>Thirty-eight million women didn't vote in 2000, many of them because they
>were so disgusted with our inauthentic politics-as-usual. If even a small
>percentage of them turn out this November, they could very well end up
>deciding the election and the direction of the country.
>
>So I propose that we turn on its ear the traditional good-old-boy political
>litmus test - which candidate would you rather have a beer with? Instead,
>let's ask the women of America: which candidate's wife would you rather have
>a cup of coffee with?
>
>© 2004 ARIANNA HUFFINGTON.
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>
>Del Hunter Morrill, M.S., Counseling Hypnotherapist
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