[Dialogue] JAY'S COMPLETED LIFE

[Ray Caruso]

David,Lin and family:

My deepest condolences to you and your family. What a tremendous loss. There
are no words to express the loss of Jay. While we all are in some form of
continuation, the absence of our loved one is very painful. In time their
spiritual presence can manifest.

I wish you light, love and peace.

Be well.

Ray




> Jay Zahrt Freed, 42, of Carson City, NV, died unexpectedly in his
> sleep at his parents' home near Turin on January 9, 2005.
> 
> Jay is survived by his wife Patricia Freed, of Carson City, NV, his
> parents David and Linda Zahrt of Turin, IA, his sister Heidi of
> Camarillo, CA, grandmother Luella Reese of Pleasant View Care Center
> in Whiting; IA,  aunts Christy Tews of Carson City, NV, Jo Reese
> Nelson of Toronto, Ontario, Karen Bird of Berkeley, CA and their
> families, and uncle Alan Marken of Clear Lake, IA and his family.
> 
> A memorial service will be held in Carson City in July 1, 2005; his
> birthday, and Jay and Trish's wedding anniversary.
> 
> The following tribute was written by Jay's sister Heidi, and his wife, Trish.
> 
> Jay Zahrt Freed, Bodhisattva
> 
> It is with tears and laughter, sorrow and joy that Jay's family
> acknowledges the end of his earth-bound presence. As we gathered in
> the Iowa farmhouse in which he died we cradled his ashes in our arms.
> We remembered his too brief existence, and searched for the words to
> say goodbye to the man we love so much.
> 
> Jay, as we send you on your journey, we urge you not to stop in the
> dark places, but to spread your love as you travel your path. Many
> lives were touched by your gentle, caring spirit, and we defined so
> much of ourselves by our relationship with you. Your curiosity,
> ingenuity and creativity awed us. Your core beliefs included a
> reverence for the environment and a quest for peace. On the other
> hand, your cynicism could ruffle our feathers.
> 
> You despaired when we were in pain and yet you knew how to celebrate
> our joyful moments. You may not have recognized how you buoyed us
> through rough waters all these years, and we no longer feel fully
> ourselves without you. As we each return to our day-to-day lives, we
> remember your integrity and your chosen purpose on this earth-to
> reduce suffering. We carry forth your intention of lovingkindness
> into the world, with you in our hearts.
> 
> We love you.
>