[Oe List ...] A Tribute to Hubert Fulkerson

[Carol Crow]

Thank you, Martha, for writing this poignant story of Hubert's life  
and thanks to you, Marian, for forwarding it to all of us.  I always  
enjoyed conversations with him and am amazed/grateful that the  
problems he had endured didn't show up as bitterness and cynicism.  I  
remember writing to him congratulating him when he got the job at  
Honeywell!  What a symbol of living the one precious life he had been  
given!  He loved his family very much and was so proud of Dara.

In Caring Community,
Carol


On Jan 16, 2011, at 2:42 PM, Marian Karpoff wrote:

> Dear Colleagues--Tim and Martha Karpoff express their gratitude to  
> the many who shared their experiences in working with Hubert in the  
> various ICA world  locations. Colleagues saw him in action as a  
> caring and committed person, yet possibly unaware of the often  
> difficult  journey he endured in his younger days. His sister Martha  
> has chronicled some of those events in a loving tribute to his life,  
> -a copy of which is included in this email.
> Memorial services will be held in Phoenix on Jan 22 and Muskogee on  
> Feb 5. Please refer to our 2nd email for details.
>
> Grace & Peace,
>
> Fred and Marian Karpoff
> 6522 20th Ave NE
> Seattle,WA 98115
>
> A Sister’s Tribute
>
> By Martha Fulkerson Karpoff
>
>
>
> For those who knew Hubert (and I’m not sure many did, including  
> myself), they know that he had a rather rough life—or was it a  
> fortunate life? A lucky life, or a sorrowful life?  It’s hard to  
> know actually.  One thing it was, was a tested life.    There are  
> those who know more about his life in Chicago, Nigeria, Kenya,  
> Zambia, Oklahoma City or Phoenix.  I would love to know all the  
> stories they know.   Hubert was all about stories, about looking at  
> events, giving them a twist, and making a story of them.  Often  
> these stories were ironic.  Often they were jokes.  Maybe his life  
> was a joke, maybe not.
>
> Hubert was born in 1938 in the Depression, in one of the heartlands  
> of Depression, Oklahoma.   His dad was a wholesale milk man in  
> Muskogee and son and brother of men who worked in the oilfields of  
> Illinois, Oklahoma, Texas and New Mexico.  His mom was daughter of a  
> pecan orchard planter and pecan variety developer.   His dad’s  
> nickname was Mick or Big Mick and Hubert’s nickname was Little  
> Mickey. Both his parents were pretty tough hard-core realists.   
> Little Mickey bucked that realism thing really quickly by creating  
> his imaginary dog Blackie.  Blackie and Little Mickey roamed the  
> town figuring out what was really going on.  His parents realized he  
> was kind of smart.
>
> In school, it turned out that Mickey was pretty good at  
> mathematics.  By high school he was being offered several  
> scholarships by universities, and finally chose Park University in  
> Kansas City, Missouri.  Park University was a private university  
> with a good reputation.  Mickey worked in the cafeteria in order to  
> pay for some of his expenses at school.  He was well on his way to  
> becoming the first college graduate in the Fulkerson family, first  
> son of a first son.
>
> It wasn’t meant to be.  Instead, he got to go prison.  There were a  
> series of fires and poisonings on campus.  Hubert was among the  
> poisoned, and in fact had the most severe case of poisoning and was  
> hospitalized for several days.  Later he was accused and convicted  
> of the crimes of arson and attempted murder (for having attempted to  
> murder himself, it seems).   The sentence was for 30+ years.
>
> My sister Kathleen and I, 6 years old and 8 years old, were with my  
> grandmother the day Hubert was convicted.   My dad phoned in the  
> sentence to her from Missouri.  My grandmother walked outside to our  
> acre-sized yard and walked and cried for six hours. (My parents said  
> that the jury seemed very sympathetic until the last day of the  
> trial.  They suspected somebody got paid off.)  We had a brief time  
> with Mickey at home where he played card and board games with us.   
> He was always a fun-loving, caring and mischievous person-- a skinny  
> 19 year old by then with lots of dark brown hair.
>
> The Missouri State Penitentiary in Jefferson City, Missouri, was  
> considered the toughest in the country in 1956.  Mickey’s  first  
> week was probably also one of the toughest.   He was a nineteen year  
> old white boy in a largely black facility.  Some bad things  
> happened.  The prison authorities thought it best to give him  
> several electric shock treatments to help him face reality.  That  
> ought to do it!  By the end of the week his dark hair was mostly grey.
>
> [Tim’s Note: The Missouri State Penitentiary, known as “The Walls,”  
> or “The Big House,” was proclaimed “the bloodiest 47 acres in  
> America” by Time magazine because of a prison riot in 1954 and  
> literally hundreds of assaults and stabbings inside the prison in  
> the early 1960s. Sonny Liston was an inmate in the early 50s. James  
> Earl Ray was an inmate when Hubert was there.]
>
> My sister and I went to visit him once in prison.  In Jefferson  
> City, which has steep hills, there’s a road up above the prison  
> where the whole prison is displayed for the merry traveler.  It had  
> the look of a large medieval castle, designed for various forms of  
> torture.  And actually it was.  I’d say I was ten and Kathleen was  
> eight.  Mom had dressed us in our sweetest, cutest outfits.  The  
> doors were massive and clanged loudly behind us.  The “viewing” room  
> was a series of booths where thick glass with chickenwire separating  
> the prisoner from the visitors.   My grandmother had sent Mickey a  
> small portable typewriter because she couldn’t read Mickey’s  
> handwriting.  Very shortly afterwards, he was back to writing his  
> letters by hand.  My mom asked why.  Mickey said that somebody took  
> it.  “Well, did you report it to the guards?” my mom demanded.  Mom,  
> grandmother and all of us on the outside didn’t comprehend where he  
> was living.
>
> He worked in the library where someone was stabbed to death one  
> day.  He learned to sew suits.  He saw Sonny Liston, a former  
> inmate, conduct a boxing match.  And, he was out in the yard one day  
> when a race riot occurred.  Mickey, being rather short (5’10”) and  
> skinny and not wanting to be killed, ran as fast and as far as he  
> could away from the riot.  Several people did likewise.  He was  
> charged with “leading a charge on the wall”.  (I’m not sure what  
> damage he could have done to the wall.)  For this, he was given 18  
> months of solitary confinement with dietary restrictions in an  
> abandoned elevator shaft.  This shaft did not have a toilet, just a  
> hole above the sewer that was directly below.   Several years later,  
> through others’ efforts and lawsuits, this shaft was declared  
> unconstitutional as inflicting cruel and unusual punishment.
>
> When John F. Kennedy was shot, the Missouri Executive Office,  
> including the Governor of the State, was, oddly enough, moved to the  
> basement of the prison.  Mickey, who was sort of a news junkie and  
> pretty much a model prisoner, was down there and recognized the  
> Governor.  Mickey asked the Governor what he was doing there.  The  
> Governor told Mickey that Kennedy had been shot and that as a  
> precaution the Feds told all the governors to go somewhere safe.   
> And Mickey said, “And you came here?”
>
> Finally, and surprisingly, after a year in jail from the charges and  
> the trial, and six more years in prison, the prison officials said  
> that Mickey was free to go because someone else confessed to the  
> crimes.  The “someone else” was the son of a very rich man in Kansas  
> City.  The only problem was that the son had been committed to a  
> mental facility by his father, and the son’s confession, as a mental  
> patient, was not good enough for a pardon.  The rich father had  
> recognized a problem with the son, but did not want his son to go to  
> prison.  If only he had had as much concern for a poor boy from  
> Oklahoma.   Mickey was innocent. Mickey was only paroled. This led  
> to many continuing problems for the rest of his life.
>
> Back home, Big Mick put Little Mickey back to work as a driver on  
> one of the milk trucks.  He and Mickey went to the County Clerk’s  
> office to get him back on the voting rolls, as felons were not  
> allowed to vote.  This was a favor to my dad, who was pretty well  
> known in Muskogee.
>
> Mickey felt most of the black people in the prison were there mainly  
> because of lack of adequate counsel at trials.  He worked with them  
> on some of their cases in the library at the prison.  When he came  
> home he became active in the NAACP and eventually became president  
> of the local chapter.
>
>  In the years between prison and the Ecumenical Institute, 1964 to  
> 1969, Mickey alternately drove a milk truck and commuted to  
> Tahlequah, Oklahoma to Northeastern State College, receiving a  
> degree in mathematics.  By this time, my mom and I had moved to  
> Texas, so the details of this period are a little speculative.   
> Mickey wasn’t a good long distance driver, tending to talk to the  
> passenger while not looking at the road, or falling asleep. (I drove  
> with him enough as a passenger to know.) One time he totaled out his  
> car, broke his arm and walked about ten miles to get help.  Possibly  
> through the local Methodist church, he attended a weekend course  
> called Religious Studies I (RSI), conducted by the Ecumenical  
> Institute.  He became an intern in the Oklahoma City House and  
> Office of the Ecumenical Institute.  Later, after February, 1970  
> when Big Mick died at age 55, Mickey got me interested in the  
> Religious Studies courses.  I joined the community in March of 1971.
>
> Mickey was transferred to the Chicago Office.  After some lecture or  
> study on Søren Kierkegaard about claiming your own self through how  
> you address yourself, Mickey dropped his long-time nickname and used  
> his given name Hubert.  I think it symbolized putting the past  
> behind and becoming a new person.  Hubert felt acceptance and  
> excitement within a very dynamic community.  He was finally having  
> the time of his life.
>
> The Ecumenical Institute staff self-funded most of its  
> administrative costs.  This largely consisted of some staff members  
> getting paying jobs with other organizations and contributing their  
> salaries to the operating costs of the entire group.  This was one  
> of the first plans for what Hubert could do.  For months he looked  
> for work.  Lyn Mathews , the wife of the dean of the Institute, took  
> an interest in Hubert and became his guardian and mentor.  Several  
> times she had to go get him because he had landed in some kind of  
> fix.  If he told the potential employer that he was an ex-con, they  
> wouldn’t hire him.  If he didn’t tell them and later they found out  
> through having to bond him, he was then fired. This happened in the  
> case of a phone sales job in downtown Chicago.  The building where  
> he worked was several stories high and had large plate glass  
> windows.  His office was up several floors.  The offices were  
> arranged where two desks faced each other to motivate the sales  
> staff.  Each desk had a rolling desk chair for the employee.  Each  
> had a different land line that could only be answered by actually  
> physically answering the phone.  One day the employee who worked  
> across from him was away from the desk and his phone rang.  Hubert  
> leapt to his feet and flung himself across the two desks to get to  
> the phone.  Meanwhile, his desk chair rolled backwards, shattering  
> the plate glass window and falling onto the street below  
> (fortunately not hitting anyone).    The company tried to bond him,  
> found out he was an ex-con, and fired him.  Later, Hubert was  
> assigned an in-house job at the Institute, taking care of the  
> “mechanicals” at the west side facility.  I never felt that he was a  
> mechanical person.  I’m certain he had many adventures there.
>
> Around this time, the Ecumenical Institute(EI) established a sister  
> organization called the Institute of Cultural Affairs(ICA) to be  
> able to offer training around the world without having a Christian  
> religious slant that could block interactions in Hindu, Moslem or  
> Buddhist countries.  Hubert was fortunate enough to be transferred  
> to Africa to begin working in one of the experimental outreach  
> programs of the Institute of Cultural Affairs called a Human  
> Development Program.  These programs were based on the community  
> outreach program in Chicago in the African-American neighborhood  
> where the Ecumenical Institute was located, called Fifth City.   
> Basically, the idea was that life, in general and in particular,  
> gives people and communities all the resources they need to live a  
> fully human life and that engaging in the efforts to be fully human  
> together causes a greater awareness of the goodness of life and of  
> people.  Hubert was ideally suited to this sort of demonstration  
> because, once he knew what the decision of a group was, he  
> committed.  It was similar to a Star Trek episode, where the captain  
> would say (after the course was laid in), “Engage”.  Hubert was the  
> ultimate engager, able to overcome any fears, and to work directly  
> with people and have fun doing it.  He worked in Nigeria, Kenya and  
> Zambia for the next ten years.  I only know a few stories from his  
> work there, but know there would be hundreds if not thousands of  
> stories from staff members and community members that knew him.   
> Hubert was analytical.  Here two stories from Nigeria reflecting his  
> extreme sense of wonder and irony.  (I’ll try to tell these as  
> Hubert would.)
>
> Traffic in Nigeria was in its formative stages.  Cars and highways  
> were just coming into being.  People didn’t really know how to  
> drive.  The rules of the road were not reflected in general  
> knowledge.  This led to massive problems.  Cars darted in and out.   
> There were many accidents.  Chaos reigned.  Finally, the government  
> of Nigeria posted men along the highway who would beat any person  
> who committed a traffic infraction.  Traffic flow improved right away.
>
>
> I was working and living in Ijede, a Moslem village in Nigeria,  
> training local women to be community health workers. I was extremely  
> happy and proud of the work that I had done. A few nights after the  
> training, a gang of men raided the village.  There was a lot of  
> screaming by women.  I ran out of my hut to see women being dragged  
> away, some carried over the shoulders of men, crying out to me.   
> Some of the older men prevented me from interfering.  The next day I  
> found out that all the young women I had trained to be community  
> health workers had been taken.    The chief of the village  
> approached me.  “Finally we’re seeing some concrete results from  
> this Human Development Project.  Because of your community health  
> training, we got much higher bride prices for our women.”
> These types of experiences might have led others of a weaker  
> constitution to abandon their work, but in fact it just gave Hubert  
> a greater perspective on good intentions and unforeseen  
> consequences, greater perspective on the how the values of different  
> cultures may be totally different from your own values.  In fact,  
> Hubert continued to work in the village and was eventually made an  
> honorary chief before he left.  He once showed me the beautiful  
> robes and head dress of a chief that they had presented to him.    
> They were of white muslin with a delicate dark brown batik pattern  
> of lines across it.  His first village assignment and he became  
> chief.  Not something that happened to everyone.
>
> In this time period in Africa, sometimes I think he felt very  
> alone.  He had done a lot of child care for staff members in the  
> times when he wasn’t working at a job in Chicago.  He thought that  
> he could be a good father and that despite his past he should have a  
> wife and family.  He set out to get married.  Fortunately, he found  
> a woman who accepted and loved him and who already had a child, Kay  
> Schnizlein and her daughter Dara.  What a joy and lucky coincidence  
> this was for him!  Later he adopted Dara and she became Dara  
> Fulkerson.  Dara was a very loving and joyful child and very smart.   
> Hubert would encourage and help her in mathematics and science  
> throughout her school years.  I think he felt like the luckiest man  
> in the world.
>
> He worked in many villages in Kenya and Zambia.  He went for a brief  
> trip to India to help explain and expand the ability to work with  
> more than one village at a time.  After ten years in working with  
> indigenous people in Africa, he returned home to his one early  
> ambition and love, mathematics.
>
> The estate of Hubert’s father, Mick, had given Hubert a few thousand  
> dollars.  On his and his family’s return to the United States to  
> Oklahoma City, he again had to think of a way to be employed.  Being  
> a computer programmer seemed a good choice at the time.  He  
> attempted to enroll in Central Oklahoma State University, but was  
> blocked by his felony conviction for some reason.  He needed people  
> to vouch for him.  I think several people, including Tim Karpoff and  
> Evelyn Philbrook, wrote letters of reference for him at that time.   
> After completing his degree in Computer Science, Hubert, Kay and  
> Dara moved to Phoenix to work with the Phoenix branch of the  
> Institute of Cultural Affairs. Hubert got a job with a major  
> technology employer in Phoenix.  He was now in his fifties,  
> competing in an industry with young people.  When the computer  
> industry decided to outsource jobs to India, massive layoffs hit him  
> first because of his age and lack of seniority.  He went through at  
> least two companies; and then the entire local industry declined and  
> his age began to be a real barrier.
>
> One of the great stories from this time of work concerned a contract  
> to design the landing program of one of the largest new planes ever  
> produced by a major US airplane manufacturer.  He worked on the team  
> that designed this program.  To the computer company’s credit, the  
> program design team worked in a collaborative and communicative  
> way.  When the due date for the program’s completion approached, the  
> company had apparently fulfilled its contractual specifications and  
> was ready to hand the program over to the aircraft company.  Hubert  
> vociferously objected to this because tests of the program indicated  
> that planes utilizing the program would land 200 feet underground!   
> He also had thought of ways to fix the program.  With his help, the  
> deadline was extended and the team was able to correct the problems  
> still associated with the program.  A few years later, this same  
> program landed a plane safely in Paris with several hundred  
> passengers on board with both pilots in the cockpit passed out  
> because of a chemical leak in the cockpit.
>
> One memory I have is of Hubert sitting at his tiny little desk in  
> his apartment, with two large posters of Einstein on the wall,  
> reading about and working through fractals.  He had a mathematical  
> and analytic brain mixed with a big sense of humor.  One habit,  
> which tended to drive people wild, was his reading through every  
> part of the morning paper.  Where others might not see the humor, he  
> would comment and show the absurdity of the news reporting.  He had  
> lots that amazed and disturbed him in Arizona politics.  He was  
> disbelieving, for example, that John McCain could continue to be  
> elected after being part of the Keating Five who had concocted the  
> Savings and Loan Disaster of the 1980’s, where many Arizonans had  
> lost their life savings.  I think that the selling of the State  
> House to private investors and then renting it back to the state  
> alarmed him. I think his review of the news and trying to engage  
> others in reading it was a way of saying, “Wake up! This stuff is  
> not just funny—start reading it!”
>
> With Hubert’s inability to find another computer job, he became a  
> substitute math teacher in the Phoenix public schools.  Not directly  
> associated with the Institute of Cultural Affairs by this time,  
> which had changed its staffing model, Hubert and Kay had to rely on  
> their own activities for income.  Unfortunately, this caused  
> conflict as Hubert became less able to contribute to household  
> income.  Eventually, Kay and Hubert divorced, although Kay remained  
> his loyal friend and protector for the rest of his life.  Meanwhile,  
> Dara was continuing her school career with flute playing,  
> volleyball, school activities, and good grades.  To date, she has  
> earned a degree in civil engineering, a masters of business  
> administration, and her professional engineering certificate.
>
> Dara’s graduation ceremonies, and even her wedding to Marcus  
> Griffith, were attended by Hubert in a wheelchair after he suffered  
> a serious stroke in 2006.  He lived in a nursing home for the rest  
> of his life.  The stroke affected his right arm and leg, and his  
> speech and memory.  Once I said to him, “You were a good  
> mathematician and computer programmer.”  He looked over in wonder  
> and with a little puzzlement and said, “Who, me?”   The little  
> speech that he retained gradually declined until there was very  
> little by the end.  He communicated by frowns, cries, smiles and  
> tears. The man who loved to talk and comment on the news now mainly  
> communicated through emotion.  Once, in a period before his speech  
> really lessened, Tim and I found that, though he could speak very  
> little, he could sing “Amazing Grace” through several verses.  We  
> were always sorry that we could not afford to provide him with on- 
> going funds for physical and speech therapy after the short period  
> of time that was funded by Medicaid.   Meanwhile, Kay, even though  
> divorced from Hubert, cared for him through visits, organizing  
> transportation to holiday celebrations, medical and dental  
> appointments and graduations, and recruiting friends to visit to  
> offer massages and “light” for Hubert.   She never gave up on him.   
> Dara became his legal guardian, visited often, cheered him up and  
> saw to his medical needs.  In the final few months of Hubert’s life,  
> he was able to see his new grandchild Marcus Mikala Griffith.  So  
> begins a new life as his ended.
>
> So what does one say about such a life?  Did I mention that he  
> contracted malaria while in Nigeria and suffered several malaria  
> attacks throughout his life?  At almost every turn he was slammed  
> against a wall (sometimes literally), and yet he laughed, shrugged  
> his shoulders, loved and served the people around him, and went on.   
> I have this vision of everyone’s life being like living in a giant  
> pen with a rampaging bull.  In some people’s life the bull is off  
> merrily munching on grass in a faraway field and only occasionally  
> brushes their shoulder, perhaps while they sleep.  Finally, at the  
> very end, the bull comes over, gently knocks them on their butt and  
> they die.  Everyone says what a nice bull that guy had.  But  
> Hubert’s bull was a more attentive bull.  “You think you’re going to  
> go to good college and become a great mathematician?  I’m going to  
> knock you down.” Bam!!!  “You think you’re going to get out of  
> prison unscathed.”  Bam! “You think you can keep a job…a wife…your  
> speech…your sense of wonder and humor?”  And yet he did retain that  
> wonder and humor.  I picture the bull, exhausted, in awe, finally  
> bowing in homage and love to a worthy opponent.	
>
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