[Oe List ...] A Tribute to Hubert Fulkerson
James Wiegel
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Sun Jan 16 19:52:41 CST 2011
Yes, Martha, thanks. Your story of your brother has me seeing so much more of him. I do remember in Villa Maria (Phoenix) Hubert's reading of the newspaper in the morning, and I do also remember at dinner his stories of the day and how they drew me in. I also remember how suddenly he could become silent, a listener, because someone else had a story to tell. I also remember his sister, Martha, who shares some of that remarkable spirit
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From: John Cock <jpc2025 at triad.rr.com>
Subject: Re: [Oe List ...] A Tribute to Hubert Fulkerson
To: "'Order Ecumenical Community'" <oe at wedgeblade.net>
Cc: "'Martha Karpoff'" <mkarpoff at aol.com>, "'Tim Karpoff'" <timkarpoff at msn.com>, Kayfulkerson at getnet.com
Date: Sunday, January 16, 2011, 5:43 PM
Martha, a fantastic Iron Man script. Thank you for
making Hubert come alive for us in vivid detail.
Another saint marching in ... along with all the others
the last few months.
John
For
all of you, Kay, Dara, Martha, et al., we will be present with you next Saturday
as you celebrate Hubert's profound journey.
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Marian Karpoff
Sent: Sunday, January 16, 2011 5:42
PM
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Cc: Kayfulkerson at getnet.com; Tim
Karpoff; Martha Karpoff
Subject: [Oe List ...] A Tribute to Hubert
Fulkerson
Dear Colleagues--Tim and Martha Karpoff express their gratitude to
the many who shared their experiences in working with Hubert in the various ICA
world locations. Colleagues saw him in action as a caring and committed
person, yet possibly unaware of the often difficult journey he endured in
his younger days. His sister Martha has chronicled some of those events in a
loving tribute to his life, -a copy of which is included in this email.
Memorial services will be held in Phoenix on Jan 22 and Muskogee on Feb 5.
Please refer to our 2nd email for details.
Grace & Peace,
Fred and Marian Karpoff
6522 20th Ave NE
Seattle,WA 98115
A Sister’s Tribute
By Martha Fulkerson Karpoff
For those who knew Hubert (and I’m not sure many
did, including myself), they know that he had a rather rough life—or was it a
fortunate life? A lucky life, or a sorrowful life? It’s hard to know
actually. One thing it was, was a tested life. There are
those who know more about his life in Chicago, Nigeria, Kenya, Zambia, Oklahoma
City or Phoenix. I would love to know all the stories they know.
Hubert was all about stories, about looking at events, giving them a twist, and
making a story of them. Often these stories were ironic. Often they
were jokes. Maybe his life was a joke, maybe not.
Hubert was born in 1938 in the Depression, in one of
the heartlands of Depression, Oklahoma. His dad was a wholesale milk man
in Muskogee and son and brother of men who worked in the oilfields of Illinois,
Oklahoma, Texas and New Mexico. His mom was daughter of a pecan orchard
planter and pecan variety developer. His dad’s nickname was Mick or Big
Mick and Hubert’s nickname was Little Mickey. Both his parents were pretty tough
hard-core realists. Little Mickey bucked that realism thing really quickly
by creating his imaginary dog Blackie. Blackie and Little Mickey roamed
the town figuring out what was really going on. His parents realized he
was kind of smart.
In school, it turned out that Mickey was pretty good
at mathematics. By high school he was being offered several scholarships
by universities, and finally chose Park University in Kansas City,
Missouri. Park University was a private university with a good
reputation. Mickey worked in the cafeteria in order to pay for some of his
expenses at school. He was well on his way to becoming the first college
graduate in the Fulkerson family, first son of a first son.
It wasn’t meant to be. Instead, he got to go
prison. There were a series of fires and poisonings on campus.
Hubert was among the poisoned, and in fact had the most severe case of poisoning
and was hospitalized for several days. Later he was accused and convicted
of the crimes of arson and attempted murder (for having attempted to murder
himself, it seems). The sentence was for 30+ years.
My sister Kathleen and I, 6 years old and 8 years
old, were with my grandmother the day Hubert was convicted. My dad phoned
in the sentence to her from Missouri. My grandmother walked outside to our
acre-sized yard and walked and cried for six hours. (My parents said that the
jury seemed very sympathetic until the last day of the trial. They
suspected somebody got paid off.) We had a brief time with Mickey at home
where he played card and board games with us. He was always a fun-loving,
caring and mischievous person-- a skinny 19 year old by then with lots of dark
brown hair.
The Missouri State Penitentiary in Jefferson City,
Missouri, was considered the toughest in the country in 1956.
Mickey’s first week was probably also one of the toughest. He was a
nineteen year old white boy in a largely black facility. Some bad things
happened. The prison authorities thought it best to give him several
electric shock treatments to help him face reality. That ought to do
it! By the end of the week his dark hair was mostly grey.
[Tim’s Note: The Missouri State Penitentiary, known
as “The Walls,” or “The Big House,” was proclaimed “the bloodiest 47 acres in
America” by Time magazine because of a prison riot in 1954 and literally
hundreds of assaults and stabbings inside the prison in the early 1960s. Sonny
Liston was an inmate in the early 50s. James Earl Ray was an inmate when Hubert
was there.]
My sister and I went to visit him once in
prison. In Jefferson City, which has steep hills, there’s a road up above
the prison where the whole prison is displayed for the merry traveler. It
had the look of a large medieval castle, designed for various forms of
torture. And actually it was. I’d say I was ten and Kathleen was
eight. Mom had dressed us in our sweetest, cutest outfits. The doors
were massive and clanged loudly behind us. The “viewing” room was a series
of booths where thick glass with chickenwire separating the prisoner from the
visitors. My grandmother had sent Mickey a small portable typewriter
because she couldn’t read Mickey’s handwriting. Very shortly afterwards,
he was back to writing his letters by hand. My mom asked why. Mickey
said that somebody took it. “Well, did you report it to the guards?” my
mom demanded. Mom, grandmother and all of us on the outside didn’t
comprehend where he was living.
He worked in the library where someone was stabbed
to death one day. He learned to sew suits. He saw Sonny Liston, a
former inmate, conduct a boxing match. And, he was out in the yard one day
when a race riot occurred. Mickey, being rather short (5’10”) and skinny
and not wanting to be killed, ran as fast and as far as he could away from the
riot. Several people did likewise. He was charged with “leading a
charge on the wall”. (I’m not sure what damage he could have done to the
wall.) For this, he was given 18 months of solitary confinement with
dietary restrictions in an abandoned elevator shaft. This shaft did not
have a toilet, just a hole above the sewer that was directly below.
Several years later, through others’ efforts and lawsuits, this shaft was
declared unconstitutional as inflicting cruel and unusual punishment.
When John F. Kennedy was shot, the Missouri
Executive Office, including the Governor of the State, was, oddly enough, moved
to the basement of the prison. Mickey, who was sort of a news junkie and
pretty much a model prisoner, was down there and recognized the Governor.
Mickey asked the Governor what he was doing there. The Governor told
Mickey that Kennedy had been shot and that as a precaution the Feds told all the
governors to go somewhere safe. And Mickey said, “And you came
here?”
Finally, and surprisingly, after a year in jail from
the charges and the trial, and six more years in prison, the prison officials
said that Mickey was free to go because someone else confessed
to the crimes. The “someone else”
was the son of a very rich man in Kansas City. The only problem was that
the son had been committed to a mental facility by his father, and the son’s
confession, as a mental patient, was not good enough for a pardon. The
rich father had recognized a problem with the son, but did not want his son to
go to prison. If only he had had as much concern for a poor boy from
Oklahoma. Mickey was innocent. Mickey was only paroled. This led to many
continuing problems for the rest of his life.
Back home, Big Mick put Little Mickey back to work
as a driver on one of the milk trucks. He and Mickey went to the County
Clerk’s office to get him back on the voting rolls, as felons were not allowed
to vote. This was a favor to my dad, who was pretty well known in
Muskogee.
Mickey felt most of the black people in the prison
were there mainly because of lack of adequate counsel at trials. He worked
with them on some of their cases in the library at the prison. When he
came home he became active in the NAACP and eventually became president of the
local chapter.
In the years between prison and the Ecumenical
Institute, 1964 to 1969, Mickey alternately drove a milk truck and commuted to
Tahlequah, Oklahoma to Northeastern State College, receiving a degree in
mathematics. By this time, my mom and I had moved to Texas, so the details
of this period are a little speculative. Mickey wasn’t a good long
distance driver, tending to talk to the passenger while not looking at the road,
or falling asleep. (I drove with him enough as a passenger to know.) One time he
totaled out his car, broke his arm and walked about ten miles to get help.
Possibly through the local Methodist church, he attended a weekend course called
Religious Studies I (RSI), conducted by the Ecumenical Institute. He
became an intern in the Oklahoma City House and Office of the Ecumenical
Institute. Later, after February, 1970 when Big Mick died at age 55,
Mickey got me interested in the Religious Studies courses. I joined the
community in March of 1971.
Mickey was transferred to the Chicago Office.
After some lecture or study on Søren Kierkegaard about claiming your own self
through how you address yourself, Mickey dropped his long-time nickname and used
his given name Hubert. I think it symbolized putting the past behind and
becoming a new person. Hubert felt acceptance and excitement within a very
dynamic community. He was finally having the time of his life.
The Ecumenical Institute staff self-funded most of
its administrative costs. This largely consisted of some staff members
getting paying jobs with other organizations and contributing their salaries to
the operating costs of the entire group. This was one of the first plans
for what Hubert could do. For months he looked for work. Lyn Mathews
, the wife of the dean of the Institute, took an interest in Hubert and became
his guardian and mentor. Several times she had to go get him because he
had landed in some kind of fix. If he told the potential employer that he
was an ex-con, they wouldn’t hire him. If he didn’t tell them and later
they found out through having to bond him, he was then fired. This happened in
the case of a phone sales job in downtown Chicago. The building where he
worked was several stories high and had large plate glass windows. His
office was up several floors. The offices were arranged where two desks
faced each other to motivate the sales staff. Each desk had a rolling desk
chair for the employee. Each had a different land line that could only be
answered by actually physically answering the phone. One day the employee
who worked across from him was away from the desk and his phone rang.
Hubert leapt to his feet and flung himself across the two desks to get to the
phone. Meanwhile, his desk chair rolled backwards, shattering the plate
glass window and falling onto the street below (fortunately not hitting
anyone). The company tried to bond him, found out he was an ex-con,
and fired him. Later, Hubert was assigned an in-house job at the
Institute, taking care of the “mechanicals” at the west side facility. I
never felt that he was a mechanical person. I’m certain he had many
adventures there.
Around this time, the Ecumenical Institute(EI)
established a sister organization called the Institute of Cultural Affairs(ICA)
to be able to offer training around the world without having a Christian
religious slant that could block interactions in Hindu, Moslem or Buddhist
countries. Hubert was fortunate enough to be transferred to Africa to
begin working in one of the experimental outreach programs of the Institute of
Cultural Affairs called a Human Development Program. These programs were
based on the community outreach program in Chicago in the African-American
neighborhood where the Ecumenical Institute was located, called Fifth
City. Basically, the idea was that life, in general and in particular,
gives people and communities all the resources they need to live a fully human
life and that engaging in the efforts to be fully human together causes a
greater awareness of the goodness of life and of people. Hubert was
ideally suited to this sort of demonstration because, once he knew what the
decision of a group was, he committed. It was similar to a Star Trek
episode, where the captain would say (after the course was laid in),
“Engage”. Hubert was the ultimate engager, able to overcome any fears, and
to work directly with people and have fun doing it. He worked in Nigeria,
Kenya and Zambia for the next ten years. I only know a few stories from
his work there, but know there would be hundreds if not thousands of stories
from staff members and community members that knew him. Hubert was
analytical. Here two stories from Nigeria reflecting his extreme sense of
wonder and irony. (I’ll try to tell these as Hubert would.)
Traffic in Nigeria was in its formative
stages. Cars and highways were just coming into being. People
didn’t really know how to drive. The rules of the road were not
reflected in general knowledge. This led to massive problems. Cars
darted in and out. There were many accidents. Chaos reigned.
Finally, the government of Nigeria posted men along the highway who would beat
any person who committed a traffic infraction. Traffic flow improved
right away.
I was working and living in Ijede, a Moslem
village in Nigeria, training local women to be community health workers. I was
extremely happy and proud of the work that I had done. A few nights after the
training, a gang of men raided the village. There was a lot of screaming
by women. I ran out of my hut to see women being dragged away, some
carried over the shoulders of men, crying out to me. Some of the older
men prevented me from interfering. The next day I found out that all the
young women I had trained to be community health workers had been taken.
The chief of the village approached me. “Finally we’re seeing
some concrete results from this Human Development Project. Because of
your community health training, we got much higher bride prices for our
women.”
These types of experiences might have led others of
a weaker constitution to abandon their work, but in fact it just gave Hubert a
greater perspective on good intentions and unforeseen consequences, greater
perspective on the how the values of different cultures may be totally different
from your own values. In fact, Hubert continued to work in the village and
was eventually made an honorary chief before he left. He once showed me
the beautiful robes and head dress of a chief that they had presented to him.
They were of white muslin with a delicate dark brown batik pattern of
lines across it. His first village assignment and he became chief.
Not something that happened to everyone.
In this time period in Africa, sometimes I think he
felt very alone. He had done a lot of child care for staff members in the
times when he wasn’t working at a job in Chicago. He thought that he could
be a good father and that despite his past he should have a wife and
family. He set out to get married. Fortunately, he found a woman who
accepted and loved him and who already had a child, Kay Schnizlein and her
daughter Dara. What a joy and lucky coincidence this was for him!
Later he adopted Dara and she became Dara Fulkerson. Dara was a very
loving and joyful child and very smart. Hubert would encourage and help
her in mathematics and science throughout her school years. I think he
felt like the luckiest man in the world.
He worked in many villages in Kenya and
Zambia. He went for a brief trip to India to help explain and expand the
ability to work with more than one village at a time. After ten years in
working with indigenous people in Africa, he returned home to his one early
ambition and love, mathematics.
The estate of Hubert’s father, Mick, had given
Hubert a few thousand dollars. On his and his family’s return to the
United States to Oklahoma City, he again had to think of a way to be
employed. Being a computer programmer seemed a good choice at the
time. He attempted to enroll in Central Oklahoma State University, but was
blocked by his felony conviction for some reason. He needed people to
vouch for him. I think several people, including Tim Karpoff and Evelyn
Philbrook, wrote letters of reference for him at that time. After
completing his degree in Computer Science, Hubert, Kay and Dara moved to Phoenix
to work with the Phoenix branch of the Institute of Cultural Affairs. Hubert got
a job with a major technology employer in Phoenix. He was now in his
fifties, competing in an industry with young people. When the computer
industry decided to outsource jobs to India, massive layoffs hit him first
because of his age and lack of seniority. He went through at least two
companies; and then the entire local industry declined and his age began to be a
real barrier.
One of the great stories from this time of work
concerned a contract to design the landing program of one of the largest new
planes ever produced by a major US airplane manufacturer. He worked on the
team that designed this program. To the computer company’s credit, the
program design team worked in a collaborative and communicative way. When
the due date for the program’s completion approached, the company had apparently
fulfilled its contractual specifications and was ready to hand the program over
to the aircraft company. Hubert vociferously objected to this because
tests of the program indicated that planes utilizing the program would land 200
feet underground! He also had thought of ways to fix the program.
With his help, the deadline was extended and the team was able to correct the
problems still associated with the program. A few years later, this same
program landed a plane safely in Paris with several hundred passengers on board
with both pilots in the cockpit passed out because of a chemical leak in the
cockpit.
One memory I have is of Hubert sitting at his tiny
little desk in his apartment, with two large posters of Einstein on the wall,
reading about and working through fractals. He had a mathematical and
analytic brain mixed with a big sense of humor. One habit, which tended to
drive people wild, was his reading through every part of the morning
paper. Where others might not see the humor, he would comment and show the
absurdity of the news reporting. He had lots that amazed and disturbed him
in Arizona politics. He was disbelieving, for example, that John McCain
could continue to be elected after being part of the Keating Five who had
concocted the Savings and Loan Disaster of the 1980’s, where many Arizonans had
lost their life savings. I think that the selling of the State House to
private investors and then renting it back to the state alarmed him. I think his
review of the news and trying to engage others in reading it was a way of
saying, “Wake up! This stuff is not just funny—start reading it!”
With Hubert’s inability to find another computer
job, he became a substitute math teacher in the Phoenix public schools.
Not directly associated with the Institute of Cultural Affairs by this time,
which had changed its staffing model, Hubert and Kay had to rely on their own
activities for income. Unfortunately, this caused conflict as Hubert
became less able to contribute to household income. Eventually, Kay and
Hubert divorced, although Kay remained his loyal friend and protector for the
rest of his life. Meanwhile, Dara was continuing her school career with
flute playing, volleyball, school activities, and good grades. To date,
she has earned a degree in civil engineering, a masters of business
administration, and her professional engineering certificate.
Dara’s graduation ceremonies, and even her wedding
to Marcus Griffith, were attended by Hubert in a wheelchair after he suffered a
serious stroke in 2006. He lived in a nursing home for the rest of his
life. The stroke affected his right arm and leg, and his speech and
memory. Once I said to him, “You were a good mathematician and computer
programmer.” He looked over in wonder and with a little puzzlement and
said, “Who, me?” The little speech that he retained gradually declined
until there was very little by the end. He communicated by frowns, cries,
smiles and tears. The man who loved to talk and comment on the news now mainly
communicated through emotion. Once, in a period before his speech really
lessened, Tim and I found that, though he could speak very little, he could sing
“Amazing Grace” through several verses. We were always sorry that we could
not afford to provide him with on-going funds for physical and speech therapy
after the short period of time that was funded by Medicaid. Meanwhile,
Kay, even though divorced from Hubert, cared for him through visits, organizing
transportation to holiday celebrations, medical and dental appointments and
graduations, and recruiting friends to visit to offer massages and “light” for
Hubert. She never gave up on him. Dara became his legal guardian,
visited often, cheered him up and saw to his medical needs. In the final
few months of Hubert’s life, he was able to see his new grandchild Marcus Mikala
Griffith. So begins a new life as his ended.
So what does one say about such a life? Did I
mention that he contracted malaria while in Nigeria and suffered several malaria
attacks throughout his life? At almost every turn he was slammed against a
wall (sometimes literally), and yet he laughed, shrugged his shoulders, loved
and served the people around him, and went on. I have this vision of
everyone’s life being like living in a giant pen with a rampaging bull. In
some people’s life the bull is off merrily munching on grass in a faraway field
and only occasionally brushes their shoulder, perhaps while they sleep.
Finally, at the very end, the bull comes over, gently knocks them on their butt
and they die. Everyone says what a nice bull that guy had. But
Hubert’s bull was a more attentive bull. “You think you’re going to go to
good college and become a great mathematician? I’m going to knock you
down.” Bam!!! “You think you’re going to get out of prison
unscathed.” Bam! “You think you can keep a job…a wife…your speech…your
sense of wonder and humor?” And yet he did retain that wonder and
humor. I picture the bull, exhausted, in awe, finally bowing in homage and
love to a worthy opponent.
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